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ELIMINATE MENTAL PRESSURE. STOP MOST PERSONAL STRESS
ELIMINATE MENTAL PRESSURE. STOP MOST PERSONAL STRESS
Mental pressure may be accurately described as that overwhelming feeling you experience when you consider your ever growing list of responsibilities, expectations and wishes that seemingly cannot be slowed or tamed to a manageable reality.
Errands, appointments, and deadlines leave you wondering how or when you might ever complete and enjoy a sense of accomplishment and relief. You may have referred to yourself, at one point or another as, "stressed out". That sense of exhaustion and overwhelm can be permanently banished from your mind. You require a little know-how to have the skill to stop the pressure dead in it's tracks. When you do know how that pressure becomes the beautiful hum of active tranquility. Who wouldn't welcome that result over the alternative?
Better yet, you can enjoy the consistent expectation that you will always win this battle. You will banish the pressure the moment you become aware of it. Imagine that jarring blind-siding pressure with it's cumulative force no longer a malady you have to suffer from. This kind of control is attainable.
Here is how you do this! First, stop thinking or saying to yourself "I must do this!" or "I've got to do this, etc..." These thoughts: MUST, HAVE TO, and GOT TO, represent a critical error in the way that most people motivate themselves. Why is this an error? Because it isn't true! These are crucial and absolute statements that are being applied to the future. They are illogical. They are incorrect! You cannot logically, in reality, be absolutely certain about causing the exact results you want in the future. The truth is that the future will always hold an element of uncertainty. After all, we are free agents who may alter our own thoughts, words and actions or change plans. Chance and circumstance may present other courses or options. For all the energy we expend on securing a result, it is ironic that certainty takes care of itself and only materializes after the fact. Additionally, priorities often change. And they should. You may alter your plans many times in the future based on an unexpected set of variables that require your attention, skills, and flexibility to guide the circumstances to a preferred conclusion.
This list of MUST statements are not true statements. They are instead only crude tools you've developed to push and pressure yourself to do all the things on that wild list of yours. These
absolute MUST statements violate the truth, the true process by which we make things happen. This violation with its accompanying overwhelm are the cause of painful mental pressure and the major hallmarks of daily personal stress. VIOLATE A TRUTH AND YOU CREATE A PAIN! THIS IS CONSISTENTLY TRUE – A NEW– FOUND PRINCIPLE OF THE MIND. Your mind recognizes truth immediately, and also its counterfeit. In this case it knows the truth of causation has been violated. Your mind, like clockwork presents you with the pain that is specific to this violation, MENTAL PRESSURE.
In a practical way, we understand that there is no such thing as an absolute requisite to the accomplishment of a task. Yet our mind, most loyal to the truth, tolerates this sort of "sloppy thinking". If, during the course of our day, we say that"WE MUST" many times...we create considerable mental pressure. Again we are repeatedly violating a truth. The resulting mental pressure is that violation's certain companion. You can count on it. When we have repeatedly violated the truth we have a great pile of this by-product, mental pressure. At that point it is not uncommon for us to act violently, or"blow up". Our irritability blossoms into unpleasantness and ultimately matures to a totally feeling of being overwhelmed. We can, surprisingly, do this most of the days in our lives, robbing ourselves of pleasant feelings along with the opportunity to experience a higher ongoing quality of life. REMEMBER THIS! Fortunately we can instantly change our thinking or adapt a different kind of self-motivating statement or thought that is true. When we do this, we stop creating the pain of mental pressure. Instead we generate a clear tranquil state of mind that allows for the free-flowing process of unpressured causation. Only the truth gives this.
What are some true statements we could replace The Must List of Statements with? We might say: "I'll do it if I can." or "I'll do the best that I am able." or (my favorite) "Nothing is necessary. Some things are preferable." Notice the pressure is gone immediately. Truth Statements possess the power to do this. I call these thoughts Releaser Thoughts. They always work. Use one the moment you feel mental pressure. It will free your mind.
Eventually you will learn to go to the truth in the first place. When you do, you won't create mental pressure and you will reap the rewards of a clear mind, free of distraction. Resulting rewards include more energy, a delightful countenance, laughing a lot and being at peace most of the time. If you have a brief instance of mental pressure when you are surprised by an intrusion, when you find yourself becoming absolute or crucial in your thoughts, you may immediately rid yourself of the pressure by using a releaser thought.
I have heard individuals claim that they wouldn't get anything done if they didn't pressure themselves. They actually believe they need that pressure. They have, in fact, become dependent upon pressuring themselves for their motivation. When I come across this in people I simply respond to this supposition by asking, " Do you believe your priorities are of true importance?" Universally the answer is "Of course". I would tend to agree. But if they have already identified their agenda as desirable, isn't that motivation enough to see it through? And isn't the type of motivation that mental pressure generates superfluous, at best? Even likely time-consuming and damaging? Very often when I pose this question the person agrees. They are then free to stop pressuring themselves.
Others, those responsible for the well-being of children or subordinates will protest that they absolutely must do all of these things. They exclaim they have to do such things as take them to dental appointments, sign them up or take them to dance lessons or other activities, get them off to school, pack their lunch, run important errands for them, and so on and on and on....
"My children would suffer if I didn't. I would be a bad parent or (guardian)"At that point I state that of course those things are very important and an effective parent or guardian would be concerned with these things. Then I state, "What if you had to have emergency surgery? You wouldn't be able to do those things. Someone else would be asked to do them." At the level of truth, logically, doing those things is VERY IMPORTANT BUT NOT ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. We can say something is very, very important to do and the mind will not bring pressure because "important" is a true value judgement. Remember, the pain of mental pressure comes from violating the true logic of causation. The logic of causation is how we actually bring things about. To summarize, we bring things about if we have the motivation, the ability and or means.
There is one important exception when you can use crucial absolute MUST statements. This pertains to hypothetical situations where one uses a predicate (English language, grammar). For instance if I am a car dealer I can say "If I want to sell 1000 cars by July 1st, I MUST get them from the manufacturer." A FUTURE "AS IF" STATEMENT IS LIKE A PAST STATEMENT. THAT IS SO BECAUSE THE ONE WHO STATES IT IS CONTROLLING THE VARIABLES AND IT MAKES IT SIMILAR TO A PAST STATEMENT, WITH ALL OF THE INGREDIENTS ALREADY IN PLACE.
Crucial absolute statements do have a valid place in our language, but not about the future. They instead relate to the past or in a hypothetical situation. All of the things in the past have been completed. They are certain. They have absolutely unfolded and landed at their natural state of completion. Further, for things to have happened exactly as they did in the past it was crucial that they followed the exact pattern they did. Otherwise that past experience wouldn't have been what it was. But ahead of time it wasn't absolutely necessary that it be exactly that way.
1. Mental pressure is caused by using crucial absolute thought patterns, as you think motivationally about your future tasks. These include statements such as "I must," or "I have to," "I've got to!" Also such statements as "I can't let this happen."What will happen if I don't stop it?" " Oh my gosh, what if......" These all create pressure and feelings of alarm.
2. When we first feel the mental pressure we can stop it by stating a truth thought, something such as " I'll do it the best I can," or "I will if I'm able," or "Nothing is necessary,things are preferable." And finally, " It could be very very important, so, I'll do it to the extent I'm able."
None of these statements create mental pressure. They remove it.
3. We eventually learn to make truth statements in the first place. When we do so, we don't have to correct our thinking. We simply no longer create mental pressure.
4. Pick your own RELEASER THOUGHT. Then use it the next time you feel mental pressure. The proof of how well it works is instant peace. It works particularly well when you have deadlines in the near future, or you have a large number of things to do; errands, tasks, calls to make--all in a short period of time. See for yourself how beautifully your RELEASER THOUGHT works!